Women’s Day – Just How Far Have We Come?

As we return home from a trip, I’m deep in thought today reflecting on this International Women’s Day. Just how far we have actually come as women?


As a woman and a mom, I see men who have been turned into couch potatoes and women trying to wear way too many hats trying to do things they were never meant to do. I see some women who are taking the “easy way out” by not fulfilling their calling but the calling of someone else.


I’m not looking to raise strong “women” or strong “men” for that matter. I’m looking to raise godly Christians who know where true strength comes from—God. That includes raising my children to know they are so very different from one another with different responsibilities and abilities.


As a woman and a mother, I’m raising my son to love and respect women like Christ loved the church, to value their contribution as well as the contribution of a woman. I want my son to realize and appreciate that he cannot make it without the gift of women in his life. I want him to not take advantage of, but to live in the fact that we women need his strength and leadership as he becomes the leader God called him to be. Realizing his potential as a God fearing man with different and wonderful qualities that are not always going to be equal to that of women…that’s one way we can move forward. I also want son to be sure not to let any woman or anyone walk all over him. He is a child of God, a son of The King. God has called him to be a warrior not a wimp.


I’m raising my daughters to be strong in their God-given abilities and gifts, to be smart enough to know that they also have qualities that are not always going to be equal to men. There will be things that realistically they can’t do and some things that they shouldn’t do whether they can or not. Then there are things they can do that no man will ever truly be able to accomplish. However, women need men and we can’t make it in this life without their contributions either.


Realizing how magnificently God created them as women and that it takes more strength living out the call of God than they will ever have living out the call of worldly feminism. They have a special place in God’s plan and nothing will ever change that. They can live in the plan or they can live outside the plan, but the plan will never change and living outside the plan is the easy way out.


My daughters and I don’t need a special day or special treatment to celebrate ourselves or to tear others down while the world attempts to lift us up, because everyday living for God is a day to celebrate men and women and the freedom He brings and to actually step into reality acknowledging our own strengths and weaknesses and the way men and women were not created to be equal in ability, but created in different ways that complement each other.


As a woman, I’m offended that my gender claims to be equal and in most cases superior to men. I’m ashamed that instead of rising above a high standard that my gender has stooped so low as to try to tear men down first so they can then climb all over them on their way to the top of something that is not even the goal or in the right direction. We claim we don’t need head starts or legs up, but we use our conniving minds to attain special treatment and to try to be our own gods. Women use their bodies to exploit their sexuality toward men to get what they want, yet we blame men for falling into our trap.


Let’s stop all of this ridiculous, tasteless, and divisive celebration of nonsense. It doesn’t make us more powerful, stronger, or better. It just makes us foolish and unintelligent because it shows how we’ve learned nothing from Eve. I’m so sad to say that we haven’t come a very long way. We’ve oppressed ourselves more than we will ever know, and we are so weak we can’t even see it.


Personally, I’ve never felt more oppressed than I have in the past several years in my life. This isn’t a result of my choicses but the way my gender has attempted to reshape God’s plan. It has affected my life and drug me kicking and screaming down a path I was not intended to go.


Thankfully I have God on my side. Nothing this world ever does can ultimately change His plan and His blessing for those who choose to walk in His way. I will always walk against the crowd and will not succumb to this chaos, and I’ll be stronger and better than you can ever dream. I’m just brokenhearted for my fellow women who have followed in the footsteps of Eve-I hate to see how weak they are becoming. God help us all.

Decorating and Preparation Tips for a Christ-centered Christmas

Do you feel that you are having a difficult time celeratingt he true meaning of Christmas? Do you ever get tired of the more secular decorations? Over the years as we have grown in our relationship with The Lord, He has convicted us about secular traditions and celebrations of Christmas. After all, The whole reason Christmas exists is to celebrate the birth of Jesus. The word CHRISTMAS comes from Old English Cristes-messe, meaning Christ’s Mass.

We have secular Christmas ornaments that we have collected over the years that help remind us of family and friends, vacations, special memories. We still display those on our Christmas tree in our family room. We also display ornaments of scripture, angels, and those focusing on Jesus. It’s a way for us to merge the two as important parts of our lives here on earth and our hope for eternity.

In a wooden box in our kitchen, we also have a box of 24 ornaments we use for the advent season that we have made. We handglittered the inside of some of them. Others are filled with trinkets that coincide with names of Jesus, and we have used vinyl to add the names of Jesus on the outside of the ornament. We study a scripture for each name of Jesus that we have compiled over the years. You can find a set of 12 of these ornaments here


Traditional, timeless, natural, sentimental those are words I would use to describe our style in decor. That makes it easy to find decorations in green, red, white, and gold. We use these colors to represent the colors of the gospel.

  • GREEN represents God as everlasting and our growth in relationship with Him.
  • RED represents the blood of Jesus shed for us.
  • WHITE represents the pure, sinless life of Christ and our journey of holiness with His help.
  • GOLD represents our hope and assurance of Heaven and eternity with our God.

It’s impossible to escape some of the typical symbols of Christmas. Thankfully, some have an origin of faith but some do not. It doesn’t take much to put a faith-based spin on them, though. Learning to do this not only at Christmas time, but all the time is a good way to teach your children that God is in everything. It demonstrates and includes Him in every aspect of life. That is the way it should be. Here’s a list of typical Christmas symbols that we have connected to God:

  • SANTA CLAUS – Of course the most obvious secular symbol this time of year is Santa Claus. We don’t have many Santa decorations at all, especially those that portray him as a cartoon or some magical character. We have a few old world decorations of him that display him in the way that he truly lived. We have taught our children about the real Saint Nicholas, his life, and his mission. We don’t celebrate him during this time, but we do discuss how his mission on earth was to remind others of Christ’s birth and how he came to save his people. We appreciate and try to honor and carry on his mission and use him as an example of someone who tried to be like Christ. Suggestions: Santa figure with cross
  • GIFTS – Reminders of the greatest gift of all: Jesus. They teach us it is better to give than receive, the generosity of Christ. Suggestions: personalized and jewelry clothing, personalized tumblers, 
  • BELLS – We use bells to remind us to ring out and boldly declare the good news of Christ. Suggestions: Bell with date.
  • GREENERY – Represents the beautiful creation of God, His eternal being, and our growth in Christ. Suggestions: Prelit garland with pinecones, berries.
  • BOWS – Remind us to bind our lives and hearts to God and His Word to our hearts. Suggestions: Bows
  • SNOWFLAKES – Represent the purity of Christ and God’s beatiful and unique creation. Suggestions: Snowflake ornaments
  • WREATH – Remind us of the never ending life and love of Christ. Suggestions: Boxwood, Pine
  • LIGHTS AND CANDLES – Help us remember that Jesus is the Light of the World and remind us also of the great commission to be a light and share the gospel to the world. Suggestions: Window candles
  • STARS – Point us to the Jesus just as the wisemen were directed to Him by His star. Suggestions: Gold stars
  • HOLLY AND POINSETTIAS – Beatiful plants created by God with the gospel colors of green and red. Suggestions: Holly.
  • BIRTHDAY DECORATIONS – Yes–birthday decorations. They help us celebrate the birthday of or Savior just as we celebrate the birthdays of our loved ones. Suggestions: Wall decor, Tablescape and paper supplies
  • ANGELS – Remind us of those precious messengers on the night of the birth of Jesus and many other Biblical events. Angel ornaments.
  • CANDY CANES – Represent the “J” of Jesus, or flipped around the crook of the Good Shepherd, and of course the white is the purity of Christ and red His shed blood.
  • NATIVITY – Of course the nativity is the direct representation of the night of the birth of Jesus. 

These reminders and representations help us keep the true meaning of Christmas alive and help us to celebrate in a way that draws us closer to Him. Praying you have a Christ-centered Christmas!

Getting What We Deserve…

Getting What We DeserveEver feel like you just don’t get what you deserve? Striving day in and day out, we work extremely hard. We scrimp, save, coupon, lose sleep, work our fingers to the bone. No matter what we do we just can’t seem to get ahead. We want what we think we deserve. Society trains us to believe we are owed something in return for our hard work. The world has even trained some of us that we deserve rewards just for showing up or even just existing.

I’ll be honest with you and tell you what I think I deserve–absolutely nothing if benefit. Forsaken, tortured, spat upon, beaten, whipped, nailed and hung on a cross and crucified for my sins–that’s what I deserve. Over my lifetime, I’ve made decisions and spoken words that were contrary to the truth of God’s Word. I’ve made many mistakes and committed more sins against God than I can count. We all have.

Guess what? By the grace of God, I haven’t gotten what I know in my heart that I deserve.  Jesus paid the debt I owed.  My Lord didn’t deserve them yet endured all of those things for a wretch like me and for you.  My God didn’t deserve to give up His Son for my sake.  I don’t deserve to have the gift of life, my amazing husband, my four precious children which I call my “blessings”, health, material possessions, and freedom. Yet my Father has blessed me with all of these things.

Instead of sulking that we don’t have what someone else has, rather than pouting about not getting things we think we deserve, instead of sacrificing our souls and the souls of others to get what we want, let’s be thankful for what do have.  Let’s seek the face of God, accept His Son, live for Him, accept His Word and obey it, and allow Him to change our hearts and daily mold us into His likeness, and TRUST HIM.  Let’s accept His salvation so rich and free. Let’s share this salvation with our children, families, friends, and even strangers.

I know someone else who doesn’t get what they deserve either: God. He deserves to be loved, appreciated, worshipped and adored for what He has done for us.  He deserves to hear our prayers of thankfulness, not our entitled whining and complaining. He doesn’t deserve to be compromised in any way and deserves for us to stand up for Him at all costs.

Now, I know we can never do anything to earn our way to Him.  But shouldn’t knowing what He has done for us make us want to live a life of gratitude rather than whining?  Doesn’t it make us love Him so much that we will gladly give our very lives for Him?

Do you know how very many completely destitute people there are in this world? There are so very many I’ve known and heard of that are living in their gratitude and their joy instead of wallowing in their lack. It’s time for we pick ourselves up and see our abundant blessings. Let’s dwell in our gratitude and joy this Thanksgiving season.

Tips for an Inspirational and Worshipful Thanksgiving and Christmas

Desiring a more meaningful and inspirational holiday season every year leads me to long for less busyness and more of God. It’s something I strive for every year. This seems like a wonderful goal, doesn’t it? The problem is the holidays come upon me so quickly and I say yes to too many things, so much so that I end up saying, “maybe next year” and I give up. After so many years of feeling defeated, I have finally decided I am going to make it happen this year with The Lord’s help of course. Read tips on my guest post at Raising Homemakers here.

I pray you are successful at a more worshipful holiday season!

Raspberry Cheesecake Shake THM FP

Fall is approaching, but for some reason I have been craving cool, light, summery shakes in the evenings. This week I experimented with a raspberry cheesecake shake recipe. It was the perfect thing to satisfy my craving at the end of these summer days. I’m looking forward to experimenting with some fall pumpkin recipes!Raspberry cheesecake shake #THM www.ruckusandrubies.com

Raspberry Cheesecake Shake FP

1/2 c low fat or fat free cottage cheese

3/4 almond milk

small handful of raspberries

2 tsp Sweet Blend natural sweetener (you can also find it at Amazon here)

Splash of vanilla

Splash of butter extract (optional but will give it a richer cheesecake flavor)

pinch of salt

pinch of glucomoannan (optional all natural thickener that supports steady blood sugar)

1 small handful of ice (optional)

1/2-1 scoop Whey Protein Powder (optional)

Begin by blending cottage cheese and cream cheese in Ninja or other blender.  Keep blending until it is smooth and creamy like this:

#THM Pumpkin Cheesecake Shake

Once the lumps are all blended, add the frozen raspberries, almond milk, vanilla, Sweet Blend, and salt. Blend until mixed well.

Now you’ll need to decide on your optional ingredients.  If you want it to be a little thicker, you can sprinkle in a pinch of glucomannan.  Some people prefer their shakes to be thin, more like a milk consistency.  I like my shakes to be thicker and fluffier, kind of like a milkshake.  If you are like me, add ice.  You can stop right there if you’re making this for a snack or you can add half a scoop of protein powder for extra protein.  However, if you’d like to eat this for a meal like a smoothie, you can add a scoop of protein powder.  This also makes it more frothy and fluffy.  You could top it with a small dollop of fat free whipped cream.  At this point your shake is low carb and low fat, so it is a fuel pull. However, if you add full fat whipping cream it will be an S.

Raspberry cheesecake shake #THM www.ruckusandrubies.com


Easy Back to School Meals

For most of us, back to school means busy, busy, busy. I need lots of meals utilizing a freezer, a crockpot, a pressure cooker, anything that shaves time off of my busy schedule. I’ve compiled a list of meals that will makes my life easier, and hopefully yours too!

Salsa Chicken

Roasted or Crockpot Chicken and Veggies (leftovers are great for dinner or lunch the next day)

34 Freezer meals

Pressure Cooker Spaghetti Squash

Crockpot Turkey and Rice

Slowcooker Veggie Omelette (Trim Healthy Mamas can sub cream or almond milk for milk)

Crockpot “Stirfry” 

Pressure Cooker Irish Stew

If you can carve out a Saturday, or a few afternoons of your time, you can put many of these ingredients in freezer bags and just dump them into the crockpot or pressure cooker depending on the recipe. Double the recipes to make twice as many meals or to ensure you have leftovers for lunch. You can also make large batches of waffles, pancakes or muffins and freeze them for breakfasts as well.

I hope these tips and recipes help you. I know they are going to make my life a lot easier!

Back to Homeschool – HIGH SCHOOL!

Another year has passed–I can’t believe it! We graduated our second daughter, and she is now settled into her college dorm. Our oldest is in her junior year of college.

…and then there were two. Our twins begin 9th grade today. I can’t believe I only have two “babies” to homeschool. It will be a big adjustment not just for me, but also for them.

Homeschooling high school brings some challenges (most people start biting their fingernails at the mention of it), but it is not impossible. We’ve already done it twice, and both of our older daughters were blessed with wonderful grades, high GPAs, and offered scholarships to the colleges at which they applied, and are both attending an amazing Bible college. I feel so deeply blessed by all The Lord has done through our homeschooling journey.

I mentioned some “challenges”, but homeschooling high school really isn’t as daunting as you would think. Here in SC, we are required to join a homeschool accountability association. Knowledge, wisdom, and experience is what they bring to the table during these high school years. They gave us a checklist of courses our students needed to take in order to receive a diploma, and some for preparing for college. They’ve always been there to answer questions and guide us.

Of course some high school courses seemed scary because they were beyond what I learned in public high school, but we enlisted friends, family, and other homeschoolers to help us along the way. There are also local support groups, co-ops, homeschool parent/teachers, and resource centers homeschoolers in our area can attend for additional teaching.

This year, we are really taking advantage of the fact that we only have two. We are hitting the ground running, focusing on a goal to accomplish much this year. I would like them to have a heavier load in their early high school years as opposed to their senior year. We are also incorporating many fun activities so we can look back on these last four years as some of the most enjoyable ever.

It helps that we’ve trained our children to love learning and to be independent learners. Of course not all learning styles adapt well to this approach, but I’ve found that as an adult it has served me well to be an independent learner. If they attend college, they will be required to learn on their own. No one is going to hold their hand through all of the work. I also want them to have that sense of accomplishment and also to see what God can do through them when they give Him their best.

I am a pretty organized and structured person, but my son’s learning style does not always flourish with structure. We have had a slightly relaxed atmosphere for the past 9 years of homeschooling him. I’ve allowed his twin sister to learn at her own pace, and it has been interesting trying to incorporate two different learning styles with my need for structure. Looking back I can see one of the many lessons God has taught me in this homeschooling journey–flexibility and humility. I’ve got my trusty binder ready for planning our family schedule and prioritizing.

This year, we will need to incorporate more of the corporate and structured learning styles so that he can adapt well to classes outside of our home as well as college if he chooses to attend. We are returning with a little more organization, rigor, and systematic structure to help us stay on track.

It may not sound like fun, but I definitely needed this since I’ve been homeschooling while running a business. I don’t want to get so wrapped up in the busyness of my life that allow it to interfere with our homeschool. It is a huge blessing in our life. Homeschooling is our calling and our priority above all else, because it incorporates our spirituality, family life, and academics into our everyday family life. This structure will lead to more moments of flexibility, laughter, and blessing.

Worry is not on my plate this year for these two 9th graders. My plate is already full so I don’t have time for it. By utilizing some organizational tips, schedules, binders, planners, and pockets, we hope to make our homeschool life a little easier. We are determined to march ahead on this journey while holding hands with Our Heavenly Father! I want them to walk in to these high school years with determination and excitement, and I want them to walk out with wisdom, knowledge, life skills, and most importantly an even closer relationship with family and The Lord.

No high school worries! God’s got this!