Have you had a pity party lately? There’s nothing like sinking down into a good ‘ole pity party. For me, it showcases those problems that I just can’t seem to escape.
It ushers me into my turtle shell of aloneness and gets me by myself so those pesky problems can’t be minimized. It actually draws attention to my problems and many times magnifies them.
Why do I like pity parties again? I’ll be honest with you…I really don’t know. I mean, I guess it is because there are times in our lives when we enjoy feeling sorry for ourselves. That doesn’t sound right now that I’m saying it, but it is true.
During and after one of my famous pity parties, I feel robbed and drained—drained of wellness, robbed of joy, and downright depleted.
Pity parties are probably best described as moments of ingratitude. There are so very many things for which to be thankful. Someone will always be just around the corner, living a life that is tougher than ours.
If you really want to get down to it, Jesus endured the ultimate suffering. No one has ever gone through what He went through, and yet we think we deserve better or that we have a right to complain. Who are we to feel this way?
There are many different trials of life. Some or financial, mental, physical, relational, and a combination of one or more all rolled into one. Depending on the trial your spirit~mind~body can be affected.
I speak of all three as if they are one—and they are. They have a rippling effect on each other and they are also intermingled. You can separate them.
What may start out as a spiritual battle will eventually infect your thoughts as well as your physical health. Negative thoughts have a direct impact on your spirit and your body. Even something as tangible as your physical body can affect the mental and spiritual realms.
As we dwell on these trials, many of us begin to pull away from our loved ones and separate ourselves from the outside world. I’ve even heard myself saying in my mind that I don’t want text my spiritual sisters/accountability partners when I’m down and out because “I just don’t want to be encouraged”.
Have you ever felt that way? It sounds crazy but it’s exactly how I feel in the midst of a pity party.
It’s the enemy. He wants to keep me from being encouraged. He wants to prevent my prayer warriors from intervening on my behalf.
Desiring to make me feel alone and vulnerable, he conspires to make forget my blessings so he can make his attack to devour my spirit~mind~body. If he can keep my body down, then he knows I’ll not have the energy or motivation to renew my mind or spirit.
I don’t know about you, but I’m not going to let him win. My family needs me to continue the wellness battle, and I certainly want to show my children how to battle the enemy not how to cower from him.
Knowing I cannot battle him in my own strength, I need to seek strength from The Lord. That means hiding His word in my heart, prayer, and doing my part to spiritually, mentally, and physically.
Spend some time intentionally pondering times when you have had a pity party. How were you feeling physically, emotionally, and spiritually? Come back later in the week, friends, for some encouragement and tips on battling pity parties. In the meantime, let’s climb up in the lap of Jesus and let Him show us the best path to take for this battle.
We humbly come before you admitting that we have allowed the enemy to bring us down. We’ve allowed him to rob us of our joy and gratitude. As we climb up in your lap, we acknowledge all of your sacrifices. We renew our gratitude for all you’ve done and continue to do for us. What you endured at Calvary was more than we deserve, yet you continue to lavish your unconditional love, protection, and blessings upon us. Help us, Lord, to seek you. Help us to focus on you in the storms and to live a life of gratitude. Equip us with what we need to fight this battle, and help us to learn and study this into the next time we meet together for wisdom and encouragement. In Jesus name, Amen.