Who wouldn’t want to be the Proverbs 31 Woman?  I will tell you who–many women these days.  They’ve fallen for satan’s lies.  Unfortunately he and the world have completely distorted the truth about her.  They have created a false controversy out of TRUTH – something God meant for our good and His glory.  The enemy wants to defeat women because he knows how strong we are with God by our side.  But I say the controversial Proverbs 31 woman is a myth.  Let’s uncover the truth:

Proverbs 31:10-31

10A wife of noble character who can find?

    She is worth far more than rubies.

She lives a life of gratitude, obedience, and submission to God, who in return creates her flawless, polishes and makes her shine.  She is a precious gem, a sparkling jewel, a priceless treasure…  I want to be thought of as priceless.

11 Her husband has full confidence in her
    and lacks nothing of value.

She is virtuous–honest, loyal, and trustworthy.  Her husband trusts her implicitly because she keeps means what she says and says what she means.  She can be depended upon.  She is soft and beautiful, yet tough and solid.  She is a steel magnolia–lovely and courageous.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
    all the days of her life.

She exudes goodness, morality, virtue, and integrity. She relies on The Lord to live an upright life.  Love never seeks to harm.
13 She selects wool and flax
    and works with eager hands.

She is a diligent worker.  She sees her responsibilities as loving acts of service to her family. She is thankful she has a family for which to care.  She does her work with joy in her heart for the family she adores.  
14 She is like the merchant ships,
    bringing her food from afar.

Have you ever worked with someone who only did exactly what they were told and nothing more?  That is not the Proverbs 31 Woman.  She takes initiative and is motivated to do whatever she can to help her family and her community.  She uses her creativity and determination to go the extra mile.  

15 She gets up while it is still night;
    she provides food for her family
    and portions for her female servants.

She plans her day wisely by getting up early, praying, giving God control of her day, anticipating and preparing for the needs of her household.  This takes discipline and self-control.  

16 She considers a field and buys it;
    out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.

She plans ways to utilize the gifts and talents God has given her for His glory and the good of her family.  They benefit from her initiative, hard work, and abilities.

17 She sets about her work vigorously;
    her arms are strong for her tasks.

She doesn’t just strive to be “good”.  She strives to be better.  She doesn’t just settle for better, but for the best.  Just when you think she has done her best, she works to push past her best and sets a new record for herself.

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
    and her lamp does not go out at night.

She works tirelessly and selflessly, sacrificing for her family.

19 In her hand she holds the distaff
    and grasps the spindle with her fingers.

She is passionate about her work.  She utilizes her passion to strive to be better, to work hard, to serve her family and others.

20 She opens her arms to the poor
    and extends her hands to the needy.

She sacrificially serves her community. She is gracious with her time and her talents, sharing and giving from her blessings.

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
    for all of them are clothed in scarlet.

She has no worries when it comes to whether or not her family has everything it needs, because she has taken the time and initiative to plan accordingly.  She hasn’t just prepared physically for her family, but she has also looked after their needs by praying for them and giving them to The Lord.

22 She makes coverings for her bed;
    she is clothed in fine linen and purple.

With class and modesty, she clothes herself as a princess and daughter of The King.  She represents Him with virtue and integrity.

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
    where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.

She represents God, her husband and her family well through her character.  She is known in the community as virtuous and noble and this reflects well on her husband.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
    and supplies the merchants with sashes.

She is industrious and seeks ways to help her family financially.  This does not take up the largest portion of her day.  This industry is not her life.  It is something she does as a side note after she has taken care of her family’s physical and spiritual well-being.

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
    she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
    and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

It isn’t just her physical appearance that is dignified, but her dignity comes from within, from her Godly character.  She gleans wisdom from God’s Word and speaks truth in love to others. They come to her because she is trustworthy and they know they can depend on her to pray.

27 She watches over the affairs of her household
    and does not eat the bread of idleness.

She doesn’t leave the affairs of her household to others.  She doesn’t expect others to care for her children, husband, or home.  She knows God has entrusted these blessings to her and she takes responsibility for them.

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
    her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
    but you surpass them all.”

Her family praises and appreciates all that she does.  They know many women are noble, but they acknowledge the extra that she does because of her love for God and them.  

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
    and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.

She doesn’t waste time on the temporal.  She fears The Lord and utilizes her time to have a relationship with Him.  Why?  Because she loves Him and is grateful for all He has done in her life.  His love and blessings motivate her to be better.  The Lord praises her.  Her heart and works demonstrate her love for God and people.


Don’t let the world distort your view of God’s truth about the Proverbs 31 woman.  He placed examples in His Word for us to live by.  With God all things are possible.  Proverbs 31 is noble, attainable, and it is God’s plan for His daughters.

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8 thoughts on “The Controversial Proverbs 31 Woman

  1. I personally love the Proverbs 31 woman. She is very inspiring! Thank you for sharing with us on the Art of Home-Making Mondays! 🙂

  2. I love the Proverbs 31 woman. I remind myself that this was her life long journey; she wasn’t all of these things as son as she was married and had children and servants. So we too must grow into these characteristics as well.

  3. Yes! We need to be striving and working towards her….but sometimes she overwhelms me. The Proverbs 31 woman seems unattainable at times.

    I just finished “Hoodwinked” – a book that speaks on this Proverbs 31 woman. The authors compare her to the myths we moms believe.

    Here is a link:

    Blessings! (Coming from Women of Intention Link-up)
    Sarah (

    1. I can see why you believe she is unattainable and overwhelming but it is because society has told us that. Anything is possible with God and it’s a comfort to me to know I don’t have to do it on my own. He is with me every step of the way. Her husband also said she was “one of many” so she wasn’t the only one in her day. Thanks so much for stopping by! Have a great week!

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