Yesterday was Mother’s Day and I had a wonderful day. My sweet husband and children did not let me lift a finger. They cooked, cleaned, showered me with gifts, and we spent the morning at church. It was a marvelous day!
While I was sitting at church yesterday morning listening to the Mother’s Day songs and sermon, I couldn’t help but think about motherhood. The messages inspired me to strive to be a better wife, mommy, and child of God. I thought about how I did not have the ideal upbringing with two parents, a sibling, a lovely home, and a white picket fence. I thought about how much of the cycle has been broken with my children. We are by no means a perfect family, but my husband and I love each other. We are in it for the long haul. My children have siblings. We have a nice home, a pet, the typical family patterned after what God intended, and we try to make Him the center of it all.
Tears began to drip down my cheeks as I wondered why things are different. How did things change? Why is the life of my children so different from my childhood? These aren’t thoughts I’ve had before. Many times I’ve had to make a conscious effort to not repeat the same mistakes that I endured in my childhood. At one time or another, I know I’ve made some selfish choices but for the most part I’ve wanted to do better for my children.
I thought about how my life was so different than many of my friends, because I was raised by my wonderful Grandmother. If it hadn’t been for her, I don’t know what my life would be like. She was amazing, but she wasn’t perfect either. If it hadn’t been for God stepping in and making something wonderful out of such a mess, I don’t know where I’d be or who I’d be. I do know that in my life God has made all of the difference!
Many times people compliment me on my parenting or my organizational skills or the fact that they believe I have so much patience because I can homeschool. That is just not the case. At one time in my life I was not very organized. I was very selfish so I would not have made a good parent. I had absolutely no patience and I had to be in control of every aspect of my life. In fact, I’m still not patient and sometimes I still struggle with control. Just ask my family… Many people ask me how I “do it all”. The truth is I don’t. They say they wish they could parent like me, but won’t they fail to realize is I hold the #1 tip for raising children. We all can hold it, but it takes a daily choice. I made that one decision that changed my life forever. It makes me a better person and a better parent. It is my #1 tip for raising children–it’s GOD.
Every parent needs God in their lives. He provides the patience, organization, wisdom, and strength to be the kind of parent we aspire to be. He is the reason my grandmother did such a good job with me. He is the reason I am able to strive to be the best parent I can be. God is not just the #1 help for parenting. He is the ONLY help for raising children. He is the perfect parent. I cannot raise my children without Him and neither can you.
Give Him your life moment by moment, day by day. Communicate with Him in prayer. Read and study His Word. The Bible contains everything you need to raise your children and while you study The Lord will speak even more wisdom and encouragement to you. Seek Him first. Don’t worry about meeting any other need in your life. Seek to glorify Him in all you say, think, and do. Let Him mold and shape you into the parent He knows you can be and the parent your children need you to be. That, my friends, is the only parenting tip you’ll ever need!